“Live Your Best Life”
This is my mantra. It might sound cheesy but stay with me, because I want to tell you how you too, can live your best life and be happier in yourself.
It wasn’t until the second half of 2017 that I started to realise the importance of living for yourself. It wasn’t until I was writing this post about my goals for 2018 – that I realised how far I’d come.
This time last year I was in a very different place. My mental health was poor. Every day I felt exhausted, lethargic and I couldn’t wait for the day to end.
I have always been a people-pleaser. I want people to like me and it causes me a lot of anxiety when I think that I’ve upset or disappointed someone. As a result, I was spreading myself too thin. I was saying “Yes” to so many things I didn’t want to do, because I didn’t want to risk disappointing people. At the time, I didn’t see this as a problem. It’s just the way I am.
In August 2017, after a long chat with the counsellor I was seeing at the time and it suddenly clicked in my head why I was feeling so stressed, anxious and generally “down”. I wasn’t living for myself anymore, I was living to please others.
From that point on, I started to take steps towards re-gaining control of my life and what I wanted it to be.
What “Living My Best Life” Has Meant for Me
- Using my new-found free time to do something I love – running this blog and making it the best it can be.
- Saving money – slowing down my social calendar has allowed me to put my extra cash away to save for a deposit on a house, which is one of my goals for the year.
- I have more time to spend with the people I love.
- Significantly lower levels of anxiety – I’m no longer trying to keep up with expectation and perceived obligations.
- I’ve learned that saying “no” is as important as saying “yes”.
5 Ways To Live Your Best Life
- Stop Comparing Yourself to Others – It’s so easy in the era of social media, to compare yourself to others. You see photographs on Facebook and Instagram of your friends getting shiny new jobs and buying shiny new houses. Although this is great for them, this might not be the path for you right now, and that’s ok! It doesn’t mean that you’re failing.
- Prioritise – Cut down your list to three or four essentials. Focus on these – it could be work, family, friends or something completely different. Anything that falls short of this list can be factored in at your own convenience. Trying to do too much at once can be draining.
- Stop Worrying About What Other People Think – I know this is much easier said than done but your self-worth is dictated by YOU, not the people around you. Only you know what will truly make you happy.
- Make Sure Your Expectations of Yourself are Realistic – Remember that you’re not going to produce huge achievements on a daily basis. Celebrate the small victories too.
- Act In Spite of Your Fear – If you let fear of failure win, you’ll never do anything. Focus on achieving your personal goals and what the end product will look like when you succeed. If for some reason things don’t go your way, you’ve learned something.
I’m going to leave you with a quote from Roy T. Bennett that I absolutely love and I hope it inspires you too.
Let me know your tips for living your best life in the comments box below, I would love to read them!
“Don’t let the expectations and opinions of other people affect your decisions. It’s your life, not theirs. Do what matters most to you; do what makes you feel alive and happy. Don’t let the expectations and ideas of others limit who you are. If you let others tell you who you are, you are living their reality — not yours. There is more to life than pleasing people. There is much more to life than following others’ prescribed path. There is so much more to life than what you experience right now. You need to decide who you are for yourself. Become a whole being. Adventure.”